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(Of course, I go back a long way, to a time when there were streetcars going up and down Broadway.I could buy a milkshake for a All the telephones were black.) It was common, around that time, for men and women to meet at parties or at dances.Meetings in bars happened from time to time, but were considered somewhat dangerous—at least by the women. Colleges became co-ed, and young people were thrown together informally, making it easy to meet someone of the opposite sex. Instead of couples marrying in their early twenties, they married later.Often men and women graduated college without yet entering into a serious, let alone permanent, relationship.The women reported to me that they did not feel threatened—although they were very likely to report that they felt disappointed. Most of the precautions I thought were important were against being stuck for a whole evening with a boring date.I especially recommended arranging to meet for the first time only for coffee or a drink.
Back in those days—before computers, or portable phones, or, even, electric typewriters—the rules were different.These precautions seemed less important after the first few times a woman responded to these published invitations to meet.It turned out the men they were introduced to this way were no more or less dangerous than men encountered for the first time in a bar, or even men whom they met through the recommendation of a friend. (A somewhat older, recently divorced, woman told me she was sitting with her date at a fancy restaurant when he took out his teeth and put them in a wine glass.) Being pro-active, as I usually am, I encouraged men and women, too, to try dating this way, although, certainly, only after taking reasonable precautions.The social rules for dating change from one generation to the next.There was a time when a proper young man and woman could not speak to each other unless they had been formally introduced. On the other hand, I understand from my patients that it is considered bad manners now for young people to date someone who has previously dated one of their friends.