And hiv and dating and
Through drugs that can often (although not always) reduce the virus to undetectable levels, PRe P, and basic safer sex practices, it is actually remarkably easy to protect both yourself and your partner. My younger self struggled to kiss someone whom I knew to be HIV-positive.
I've always known you can't get HIV through kissing (it's a simple, safe activity), but the irrational mind is powerful.
And we need to understand, and incorporate into our sex lives, the fact that a risk of transmission is higher with someone who doesn't know his status and/or is not on medication than with someone who is being treated.
There are tens of thousands of serodiscordant (positive/negative) couples who are in vibrant, healthy relationships that last years or decades without one transmitting the virus to the other.
We must ask ourselves how we are perpetuating ignorance and shame in our community, regardless of our HIV status, through the actions we take and the decisions we make around dating and sex.
As I know it has for many diagnosed with HIV."—Joshua "I recently joined the site to simply peruse the personals in search of other poz men."Met a truly exceptional guy on this site back in August and am now off the market! I'm with the best girlfriend I've ever had and owe it all to the site and their willingness to provide the community with a free dating service. From a very happy guy in San Diego."—Guy39sd "I just wanted to say thanks! "—Russ "I would like to thank you for this website. We have so much in common and the love we have is real. I love frank and he loves me equally."—Isaiah "POZ personals ROCKS!Thanks for being there and for showing me that I'm not alone."—Mike POZ: Reducing HIV Stigma One Story at a Time The 411: Featuring a dating network of 150,000 members, personal testimonies added weekly and consistently-updated news, POZ is breaking down barriers and supporting an often unfairly stigmatized community: those living with HIV.This is difficult for me to write and maybe for you to read. The next worst will be the day we bury you from AIDS." Much has changed since then.