Getting to know each other dating stage
They call this the honeymoon stage, because in olden days we’d be married by now and going on honeymoons. After you’ve been together for a while and get comfortable, however. Can you waltz over to his/her house when you’re having a bad hair day?Most importantly, can you ugly cry (and regular cry) in front of this person?And if things go well, dating couples move in with each other, on average, after 30 weeks or 60 dates.So, from now on I’m sticking to my guns – if you won’t call it after eight weeks, then I’m out of there.These are questions you’ll ask yourself once the honeymoon stage is long gone and you find out whether or not this relationship has legs.
I always have to be really pushed into making it more serious – but that’s just the way I am, it’s nothing personal.” I’m not sure I buy this – how would his (lucky, lucky) girlfriend feel if she heard him saying, outright, that he hadn’t been too fussed about her when they got together, and that they’re only together now because of her tenacity?Of course, there’s always the chance that I’m (shocker) wrong – maybe eight weeks is far too early to call it – maybe I’m going to miss out on swathes of wonderful, slightly indecisive men who need longer than a couple of months to decide if they want to be in a relationship.They’ll end up with women much more nurturing and patient than I, who realised that all they needed was a bit of time and gentle guidance.When I asked him if we were going out properly he just said he ‘wasn’t there yet, and wasn’t even sure if he wanted a serious relationship.’ “I don’t want to push it as I have a really nice time with him.I don’t want to come across as some relationship-obsessed harpy and I’m sure once we’ve been seeing each other for long enough he’ll come round – we’re in a relationship in all but name anyway.” I slightly want to bang my head against the keyboard now, not least because I’ve said the same thing more than once in the past.